Omit to Commit is all about the resources needed to opt into (and out of) behaviors, such as time, traditions (individual or group behaviors), trust, and treasures. By regularly making and breaking habits, life becomes more fulfilling and satisfying. I’m drafting a book called Omit to Commit, and in 2023, I’m posting research on the 20th of every month.
What resources are needed to commit to yourself, an idea, or a group? And what are the norms? Those are the key questions in my Omit to Commit research. I have found parallels across organizations, worlds, and disciplines. Today I’m diving into a cause near to my heart (and home): The pursuit of less/more. This topic may polarize, as it’s frankly political. Minimalism and maximalism are about exchanges of energy, including goods, services, and finances. This is a BIG topic across centuries and worlds. And so here, in this post, I focus on twentieth and twenty-first century organizational trends, touching on behaviors, psyche, and history. Most of my research is from primary sources. If you’d like to further my habits research, such as your pursuit of more, less, or essential, let me know by filling out this short form on making and breaking habits. Thank you!
Fundamentally, humans need food, water, shelter, and warmth in order to sustain life. Such essentials are often satisfied by work. But what comes after? How one uses this space in-between is highly dependent on the individual and their environments, and behold: The key resource in any habit is time. Specifically, leisure time. Democratically, this time can be spent doing anything (as long as you’re not hurting anyone, of course). In the modern world, this time is often divided, between people, exercise, service, education, more work, play, and perhaps even relaxation. Within leisure time, these environments are very much dependent on resources. Some may only have one job, and so they may have more time than others for other obligations, such as family.
Recognizing time as a key resource, both minimalism and maximalism require a commitment of exchanging energy, such as finances, goods, and services.
The methods of using time for one’s treasures are surprisingly similar across groups, at least in the first attempts of minimizing or maximizing. Marie Kondo, a super-heroine of modern minimalism, suggests the individual gather all cataloged goods in one space, and methodically go through each item, deciding one by one if the stuff in question brings joy. If not, thank the stuff for their service, and move on to the next object (I penned a “review-ish” about Kondo’s tidying up in 2019 here). That’s a big commitment, but that assortment of feelings, stuff, and time-space are not unlike maximalism.
Treasures are at the focus of minimalism and maximalism. Each item carries an energy but perhaps there are more whites and grays in minimalism and more animal prints and patterns in maximalism. When maximalists are curating, rules aren’t as set, such as Kondo’s technique of sorting and caring, and that is a fundamental difference between groups. While both organizations require time to curate, collect, discard, and donate treasures, maximalists don’t have specific rules or tenants to abide by.
Time is of the essence for minimalists, as one goal is to not think about the items again. Efficiency is the hope of this minimalist habit and therefore greater group. By reducing physical clutter, a theory is one’s mental clarity becomes sharper. Again, the pursuit of more/less varies, but minimalism may require a shorter journey of time, as maximalists may continue curating their collections long after minimalists have boxed up their goods for donating or decluttering. But that could be because of how time and space play together, which leads to…
Environment, whether at home, work, or play, is critical in recognizing (dis)attachments to one’s belongings. The Covid-19 pandemic affected, and still affects, much. Compartmentalization may just be a pre-pandemic goal. In 2020 and beyond, spaces have become muddier, multiuse: Work/school became home, and home became work/school. That kitchen table you almost donated? Now a desk and play-place, all at once. Remarkably, 3 years later, with Covid-19 still raging in its variants, many employers and educators are moving back to brick and mortar. Whether that’s returning to their old (often beloved) buildings or finding a hybrid model of virtual and physical, has a sense of making a space outside of work/school returned?
Making space is a privilege, and it’s often a personal and political statement.
Minimalists in particular crave white or blank spaces while maximalists continue to edit and curate their spaces. These are not inherently political statements. However, let’s look at the context of a modern movement in the western world. In the 20th century, having a home to return to was a privilege and became the norm for the middle class. Post-war, “home is where the heart is” took root, and so suburbia was born. Engineering homes that looked like one another was part of the machine, a key tenant of the (often male) return to work. Gender roles became “tradition” and, yes, sexist. Homecraft (often created by those not working) forged flourishes within homes, but those (often female) individuals were also operating the house, such as laundry, cooking, cleaning, a job in itself. Often while raising a family, another job. Thus, if there was any leisure time, the home-space was for showing often influenced by magazines, fashion, and relationships. Seemingly gendered activities, like crafts and style, were maximalist in the sense that individuals considered them self-expressions. Some researchers argue homestyle in post-WW2 suburbia was more minimalist, as the houses’ straight lines, machinery, and uniformity were manufactured, contrived by “traditional” family units.
Interestingly, the early 21st century rise of social platforms like Instagram and YouTube, along with Covid-19’s isolation, have spurred trends of creating and collecting crafts again, such as a maximalist, nostalgic bent to thrift stores. Grannycore, anyone? Maximalists in particular crave this expression of style and stuff, but I believe minimalists can find spaces for crafting, too. It might be a little difficult within the parameters of owning less on principle, but I think it’s possible (I asked, Can creatives be minimalists?, here). Home is often where the (emotional) stuff is, indeed.
Creation of arts and crafts is a marker of humanity, especially in one’s home and style. Celebrating what makes us human, art simultaneously allows windowing and mirroring to the soul. Writing is my craft, and I also collage, make short films, and dance. Art, when expressed, isn’t inherently minimal or maximal, it just is. Display of art, by comparison, is a minimalist and/or maximalist activity, as it shows one’s sense of style, whether that display is in one’s home or on one’s body. Curation of treasures requires thoughtfulness, such as using all the same frames for photography or preferring silhouetted neutrals for clothes (minimalist) or preferring patterns (maximalist). Thus, an individual can be both minimalist or maximalist, or somewhere in-between (I’ll get to essentialism shortly!).
Blank spaces give room to think, ponder, feel, and/or lounge. Currently, in the early 21st century, creating spaces, whether mental or physical, may still be a sign of privilege or poverty. The stuff within a space requires discernment, whether the owner ascribes to a particular group or otherwise. Maximalists’ curation process is ongoing, and may have less blankness, often resulting in rooms with more adornment. Decorations in particular are a sign of personality, regardless of one’s style or group alignment. Collections might be more maximalist. Both groups will probably tell me it’s not simply decorating a body or room, it’s making space for what you value. And so I ask:
- What are the costs of committing or omitting stuff? Style?
- What are you/your spaces signaling, to yourself?
- Who and what are you showing, to others?
- How’s your psyche, is there shame, guilt, and/or joy attached to ownership (of less or more)?
- Where, in time and space, are you recognizing? A nostalgia of past experiences? A forward-thinking potential?
The omission of clutter may make space for other projects. Or not, perhaps that space is variable, dependent on who and what are walking in. Space and time to think, work, and play, are crucial to humanity, and I believe giving yourself time to curate environments leads to fulfillment. Clean or blank walls do not always translate to one’s thoughts and feelings, as minimalists suggest. But the other extreme side, hoarding, has psychological effects, too. Attachments to “owning” one’s things is part of what makes us human, after all.
Ownership, of more or less, is not simply about the items in question. It’s moral.
Being proud of one’s stuff and style is a deeply personal idea, and that is a newer definition of ownership. Similarly, ownership requires standing by the pursuit of more/less. That is a personal task and may even be moral. Stuff so often has an ethical connotation, such as “owning” a cross if you’re a Christian. The items themselves do not carry anything. Instead, humans assign value to stuff and things, based on relationships, culture, and experiences. You can’t take it with you, but these meanings carry loads. Perhaps that’s why humans hold on? In the hope of enjoying, manipulating, and/or controlling physical and mental spaces.
Essentialism, therefore, may be a solution, if we even need one. By focusing on core values of what’s meaningful to a particular person, this group has less rules than minimalism while still allowing more individualized expression of collections like in maximalism. Is such a middle ground like essentialism possible? I don’t think this group has taken off as much as minimalism or maximalism, partially because an “even” medium is unusual. What, who, and where has value is a personal, purpose-driven question. Distractions from core values, plus theories on why humans need stuff and style so much, abound. Optimizing takes time and space, regardless of ascribing to particular group(s). Omitting stuff and focusing on your unique style require time, but so does committing to what’s left. Personally, I believe individuals can be any combination of these groups, such as having a more minimal sense of style for clothing but a maximal home. Pattered dresses and colorful tees are my norm, but so are white walls with a handful of collages.
Stuff tells a story of who humans are, were, and perhaps who we strive to be. Space is required to highlight individual, social, and cultural expressions, and the stuff and the spaces that contain them are treasures. Time is absolutely essential to forge a sense of belonging within any and all groups. One’s habits vary as organizations, trends, needs, and people change. Ultimately, this pursuit of more, less, and/or what’s essential is a personal task, and therefore it can be a political and privileged undertaking. I’d love to hear what you think! If you’ve considered a pursuit of more, less, and/or what’s essential, consider filling out this form. I’ll see you again for more Omit to Commit research a month from now, on March 20th!
Thanks for the awesome information that is helping me reflect on these things. I display items in my home that give me pleasure and have good memories such as a landscape print that was in my Mom’s bedroom, watercolor pictures from trips, and family pictures. I love reading and when I am done with the book I either give the book to someone or donate it for someone else to enjoy. I also read books from my local library.
Life is too short. I believe it is important to spend time building and strengthening relationships with family and friends.
I also believe in “less stuff less stress.” There are so many facts to back this up such as a living in a healthy environment for my mental and physical health, living in an environment conducive to conversation, study, prayer, and a good sleep pattern.
Thank you so much for your thoughts, Cathy! I believe art and memories deserve to be displayed, or what’s the point if the stuff is collecting dust? Those sound like lovely memories. I’m glad you can honor your family in such a way.
Books are some of my favorite things and one of the hardest items for me to declutter. But I love how you describe passing the memories and joy on to the next reader. Taking a note from you!
Absolutely agree on making and maintaining strong relationships. That’s the ultimate resource. So glad you have spaces to connect to your people, faith, and yourself. Grateful for you!
You know I have a lot of thoughts and feelings on this topic! Three nuggets that resonated with me:
Minimalism/maximalism are about “exchanges of energy” —> I give a lot of energy to each of my living spaces and therefore I get a lot of energy back from those spaces. I curate my spaces with colors and objects that bring me joy and inspiration, knowing that I will feel more uplifted and creative than I would in any other space. You won’t find me working in a coffee shop with a bunch of sleek, exposed wood and *the lights* hanging everywhere (you know the ones). You’ll have a really hard time prying me out of my woman cave (or Mar’s Manic Cave as the sign says). The explosion of colors and flowers and art supplies and unfinished projects bring me to life when I’m feeling numb and listless. Even when I’m not trying to create, the energy in my bold, cheery living room is like a magnet that pulls me out of the dark when I can’t get out of bed. When I want to feel sexy, the energy in my bedroom draws me in with its velvety soft fabrics and deep greens, blues, and purples that feel regal and luxurious.
Making space is a privilege and a statement —> Aaron and I live in a spacious three bedroom house with a full second living room and 1.5 more illegal bedrooms in the basement, and yet we have no intention of filling that space with children or roommates or anything that doesn’t serve US specifically. My grandma asked me “do you have bedroom sets for all those bedrooms?” as if the term “bedrooms” means they must be for additional beds and thus additional people. Nope, on the main floor we each have our own personal creative space in addition to our shared sleeping room. All that space in the basement? The second living room is a concert venue/party room and one of the bonus bedrooms is going to be a professional recording booth. The one and only room we ARE leaving for guests to sleep is in the basement. Make yourself comfortable, but not tooooo comfortable. The main floor is centered around US, not making space for hypothetical guests we don’t really want to visit too often or for too long.
Stuff tells a story of who we are —> I felt such a sense of pride and fulfillment when my dad brought his then-girlfriend Jess to my place for the first time, and she said “I’m so glad I got to see your space. I feel like I know you better.” I feel so SEEN any time I bring a new person into my space. It’s something I’ve put so much time and energy into curating, with the goal of making it feel like an authentic expression and reflection of me, my style, my creativity. I feel like showing off my house is showing off all the best parts of me.
Thank you so much for sharing such detailed feedback and notes from your personal experiences, Marissa!
Yes, O2C is essentially about energy. Fundamentally, humans are what we give time to, so how are we spending our precious time (the ultimate resources) to create good work, relationships, spaces, and even more good times?
Your home is such a wonderful, honest expression of you. And you will continue to hone what it looks and feels like by who you share it with, committing to certain identities (can’t wait to see the latest version of your Woman Cave), and omitting and/or other working on another identities. That last one was hard for me for a long time, such as my camp counselor identity and journalism identity.
It is fascinating how westerners allocate spaces for specific tasks or roles, when in reality, part of the privilege of space is making it your own. The studio sounds like a perfect fit for you and Aaron to keep creating and making, whether it’s just for you or for others. I think creatives and spaces will be April 20th O2C post, so stay tuned!
The minimalist in me says the bed should just be for 2 things, feeling sexy and sleeping, but that’s also a privilege, since having minimal functions/thing AND more spaces to do other things are resources.
I am glad your style and stuff choices help you feel seen, by those you know well and those you’re letting into your life. What an affirming practice!