What have I learned about myself during these 4 months in my new home? By physically separating myself from my old life, I have formed a boundary, a space between what I was, who I associated with, and what I worked for. I’ve slooowly stripped myself away from many associations and have befriended solitude, favoring…
Author: KaylieLongley
Giving myself space
I’m in the process of giving myself space. I’ve written on my obsession of using time well, and I’ve also discussed giving space for habits to cultivate identities. But what about space for myself? I’m learning to respect my personal space. When I was dating someone, I naturally saw much of their pov. Even though…
Midwest to West Tips
I moved to Denver nearly two months(!) ago, and I’m still exploring. Despite the magnitude of transplants, most guides are dedicated to tourism and assume you’re a member of a family. Though I have two awesome roommates and coworkers, I suppose I’m a “young professional”, not necessarily looking for networking. Instead, I’m finding friends. If…
(Re)establishing routine after a big change
Oh, hello again, world. It’s been a minute (okay, 2-ish months) since I’ve written last. In that time, I’ve moved to a new state, thanks to a new job. Blogging’s been on my mind. And so has change. I’d rather not write clichés. But I can tell you what I’m feeling, how I’m reacting, and…
Transitioning a summer routine
It’s 11:26pm, and I’m surrounded with half-filled boxes. I could be sleeping. Packing. Or getting some jumping jacks in. But instead I am blogging. After last week’s attempt at standardizing schedules, including overtly adding that includes writing more regularly, it’s been an awesome week. I’m trying to keep some routines going during this time: My…
A minimalist INFJ’s lessons from a big life change
I’m not much of a procrastinator, but I have learned a lot about myself in the last couple of days, so I apologize for the delay in blogging. No excuses. Instead, here’s some life updates, tossed in with some lessons about myself. I crave time. I measure A LOT. I do things by time: Runs,…
Where does confidence come from?
I’ve had many conversations with friends and associates the last few weeks about the role of self in making things happen, and that’s led to topics like self-esteem, confidence, and energy. And I absolutely believe confidence is key in making good stuff happen… But where does it originate? In elementary school, I didn’t have much…
Let feelings direct flow, fun
“Only talk about what you want,” proclaims almost all of my morning meditations of the last week. It started as a tiny whisper, but it’s grown larger. What. I. Want. When I imagine letting myself do what I want, I have to remember it’s for me, my energy, my space, my time. It’s not about…
Give space for mental energy
I’ve been meditating on energy. I can control the physical energy I give to something, but it’s harder for me to see the mental energy. This is not to say that my brain isn’t working; neurons are firing very well, thank you. I’m constantly going: Waking up early to run, then work, then volunteer at…
Taking control of what I want
A dear friend recently told me to, “control the controllables.” Isn’t that awesome? It gives so much agency to do what I can but also recognize that there are systems so much bigger than me, that only I can do what I can do. So what can I do to work on what I want?…